Round Two
And……we’re back. After a bit of a self-imposed hiatus trying to wrap our heads around exactly where we are and what we’re supposed to do in light of the (perhaps) expected and (certainly) disappointing negative results of the first IVF cycle.
We went on vacation. We talked to family. We talked to each other. We saw a couple of movies. We talked some more. I think we had to talk until we could figure out how we were supposed to even “feel” about where we are in our lives with all of this going on. To try to determine to what lengths we were willing to go to in order to expand our family by one (or more).
It was good and healthy and difficult to talk about sometimes – exploring the limits and how we would or could handle the worst case scenario – that we crap out (using my gambling metaphor again). I think we came through this failure stronger, though…we both refuse to let this define us. We are not going to spend the rest of our days trying to find the missing piece for happiness – we’re already happy.
I think we would make great parents, and Amy in particular would be a great mother, but if it’s not in the cards then we’ll be ok. We’ve got a great relationship and we would just end up having a lot more money to take vacations, etc. as the years go by. That’s not what we want, of course, and I think it would be sad to have to face that reality, but face it we would. From reading a few of Amy’s IVF blogs that she forwards to me, not all relationships survive this kind of trauma, but neither of us are concerned about us, and that’s a pretty good place to be and a good thing to realize as we are facing our last best chance at my future nobel prize winning, football star son. 
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